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Whisper of a Thrill

by Toni Cattani · Tuesday, February 17th, 2009 at 12:16 am

Soon enough, I’ll be dead. Of course, I don’t know when that’ll be - but in a way I was dead already. Sleeping used to be the highlight of my day, until the highlight of my day was replaced with insomnia. It came out of nowhere. It was as if I woke up one day and realized my hours were being spent sedated, as the world around me carried on. Over time, I came to realize there was something missing, I didn’t know what, but I knew that it wasn’t too late to seek it.
 
I currently live in a small town called Delafield, WI, where the surrounding ‘neighbors’ have jogging outfits for everyday of the week. It’s exhausting to watch these individuals, these families. Material families. All of the houses look the same in my subdivision, each one painted with their own color to give the illusion that we aren’t all built alike. But I love the house I live in. It’s ugly. Unlike any of the other houses around, it’s a wooden rectangle with windows outlined in white. Bikes scattered on the front porch, each belonging to one of my three younger brothers, cars in the driveway neglected by our garage from the large useless items hidden within. I’m sure it bothers our neighbors, but their perfect houses topped off with perfectly cut green grass that always is cluttered with fertilizer warnings…well, that bothers me. They have this notion that the picture perfect world is the way to go about life and it seems as if our house could be the smudge on that picture. But, that smudge isn’t a bad thing.
 
It makes me think of a gate in Nikko, Japan, called the Yomeimon Gate, it’s an extravagant gate with astonishing designs and carvings intertwined within it. But if you look closely, on one of the pillars, one of the carvings was carved upside down. It’s the only spot that doesn’t follow the pattern. It was said by a great physicist, that the unique print was put in place by the Gods to show that man is not perfect at their peak of assuming they are. Notice how the words ‘unique print’ were used, rather than ‘imperfection’. It’s because we learn from these unique mishaps, it reminds us to dream big, yet keep a foot on the ground when taking that first leap.
 
It’s a great example to feed off of. I would love to introduce my neighbors to the Slow Movement, but as Carl Honore has put more than once - How do we slow down in a world built for speed? And he’s right, it takes a critical moment in your life to realize how you’re living your life…and if it’s the way you want to live it. You have to ask yourself, “What truly is important?”.
 
I am so grateful that I had this ‘Aha!’ moment early on in life. At my age, one would assume I haven’t truly experienced anything significant yet and to some extent they’re correct, but depending on how you look at it, I believe in some respect I’ve experienced more in my life thus far, than my thirty-some year old neighbor next door. She’s still stuck on whether the blue or red jogging outfit goes better with the new Nike’s.
 
I’ve had my eyes opened as to how to view the world in more way than one. And I hope through these blogs, I can reach out to a few people who are searching for the same thing I am. We may not know what it is exactly, but we’ll know when that whisper of a thrill takes us beyond our wildest dreams and we start living life to better ourselves and others without thinking about it. If we can’t paint one big beautiful picture with a few smudges, hopefully we can make a couple of nice ones before we’re taken to that next place.

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3 Responses to “Whisper of a Thrill”

stevenson

I have the same problem. My wife and I moved to an area like Delafield, outside of Atlana, Georgia. At first we thought the suburbs were great. Friendly people, nice lawns, people who were just like us. Then, I found out we weren’t allowed to set up above ground pools in our backyard, we couldn’t have certain colors on our house, no funny mailboxes, things of that sort. It was strange, one day I woke up and was thought ‘this place isn’t me.’ My wife had thought the same thing a while back, but never told me. SO, because of reading Carl’s book and really thinking about our life and our family, we packed up and hit the road to Iowa. Never in a million years would I have thought farming was for me, but I have always wanted a farm. Now we live on our farm, two beautiful kids and our children are finding other ways to have fun ‘the old fashion way’ you could call it. But seeing their smiling faces everyday on a tire swing, there is nothing better. Glad I left the suburbs.

When you said you liked your ugly house that made me laugh, made me think of our neigborhood back in GA.

Really glad I read this.

aclearbluesky

Doesn’t beauty often comes from within? And isn’t it mostly in the eye of the beholder. Reading your post, I guess I became the ‘beholder’, and from another part of the world, your house looks like the prettiest one on the block.
Nice post, and don’t let your age fool you. You’re absolutely right that experience is not only in gathering moments over the years, but in what you learn from these moments and do with that knowledge.

bernadettenoll

We can definitely work on bettering ourselves but when we attempt to “better others” it’s a slippery slope. We can model contentment and hope others feel contentment too - but deciding what is “content” for everyone can be dangerous.

I do love your sentiment but I do think we have to be careful of not dictating taste and desire.

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